Would you put up with this?

be careful what you wish for. My wife was the same way and I created a monster. Now she doesn't take any crap from me anymore either. I can't think of anything special I did besides tell her repeatedly what you've just said. Try going with her sometimes to confront people. You get it started and have her take over. She'll start getting the hang of it. Plus you have to have her back. You can't have her do things then let her deal w all the repercussions on her own. Make sure she feels confident that you have her back. GL.